Dogs usually develop a type of dependence that is enhanced by the relationship with their human, this makes them behave in an uncomfortable way for living together, cry or break the doors trying to leave.
Keep in mind that dogs are very gregarious animals, therefore, for them the herd (family) is very important to feel calm and safe.
A mother dog educates her puppy to be independent and although she can feel more comfortable with the pack, do not be helpless when alone. But humans do not always reproduce this teaching, and many dogs, cared for or raised by humans, do not learn to feel calm while alone.
To prevent your dog from developing these dependency behaviors you should not pamper him for others, you should not overprotect him, have him in his arms, feed him in the mouth, or prevent him from relating to other dogs, nor does it help him if you let him sleep in your bed , or is at all times with you. The papers should not be lost, as we would do with a small child, letting him be independent is essential for his happiness.
If your dog feels sure of himself, even if it gives him a little sadness that you leave, he will wait for you to come back sleeping or playing, because there will be things that call his attention that it is not you, his life will be wider and he will not be alone pending of you
It is easy to teach a puppy to sleep in his bed from the first days he is at home, a bed that is for him, with blankets and things that give him the feeling of being wrapped, since small dogs sleep piled up his mother and always looking to be close to her tit, since, in addition to feeding them, her mother cleans her poop and pee butt, but when they are 3 months old they do not need this care, although they do like to continue feeling the body of the mom.
Little by little, the puppy gets used to having his place, and that gives him peace of mind and security, if at all times you are able to get your dog to be clear that he has his dog site in your family, he will love being with you But it won't collapse when I'm alone.
As adults, this dependent behavior is usually found, in dogs that have only lived among dogs, or those that have been rescued and the penalty for their situation has led the human to overly protect him as trying to compensate for the evil that has happened. I ask you not to do it, that a dog that has had a bad experience, what it most needs is to feel like a normal dog again, to protect it for what has already happened only causes it to go from panic or pain to feeling totally insecure. and unprotected.
We can be wrong in the treatment of our dogs by excess or lack, so that this does not happen to us, we must not lose sight of the fact that they are dogs, that they do not interpret our behaviors, but that they live them. If you are proud of your dog, he will be the best.
Teach him to be an independent dog - Separation anxiety
We can teach the dog, putting into practice some guidelines since the dog enters the house.
The problem with dogs and adults requires perseverance and a lot of patience, but in many cases, it is solved.
1º- Ignore the dog for 15-20 minutes before leaving home. Do not give clues that you are going out, nothing like "I'll be back soon", "Be good", "Now I have to leave".
2º- Try to camouflage or change the order of the things you do when leaving, such as taking the keys, closing doors, putting on your jacket or shoes, etc.,
You see doing all that, but before departure.
3º- When you go out of the house, leave a bone of cooked cow cane (and with the edges filmed so that no damage is done)
Stuffed with food, with your feed and water you can make a paste so that it can be introduced into the bone. You can have one in the freezer already prepared, to give it to you the moment you leave. Trying to get the food inside, any dog will have a good time entertaining.
When you return home you remove it. (That bone can only be used when you're not at home)
In animal stores they sell a toy for this purpose. (Kong)
WHEN YOU RETURN HOME
1º- Ignore the dog (this means not looking at him, or talking or touching him) for the necessary time until he calms down and makes his normal life around the house.
You must be indifferent to their jumps and displays of joy. If you have to get rid of it, you should do it as aseptically as possible. Without a word and without touching it, just turn your back on it. This usually takes a maximum of 15-20 minutes.
2º- Never punish the dog for what he has done in your absence (whatever it is). You will only make the problem worse.
And avoid picking up what you have done in his presence and wait for him to be calm to do it.
And finally, let's try to make it more independent.
* The dog can only receive attention if it is your initiative.
That is to say, you completely ignore it whenever it approaches you in demand of play, caresses, walk, food, etc., you have to be the one who approaches it, without asking, you can do any of these things when you feel like it, but remember, you always have to start the first contact. This measure is not a punishment, but a way to make it more independent.
* Teach him that staying away from you, both in the same room and in a different one, is more profitable for him than staying by your side. For this, it rewards with caresses, sweets or games every time you lie quietly somewhere remote. Otherwise, that is, if he lies by your side or follows you around the house, you must completely ignore him.
* When you are at home, "cheat" the dog, for example, by blowing the keys, putting on your jacket or shoes, etc. and present these signs from time to time (several times a day) while you are at home without actually going out. The objective of the exercise is for the dog to get used to them and not necessarily relate them to the moment of departure.
* Before leaving you it would be convenient if you had received your ride. In order to be tired and with "everything" done before leaving him alone.
Things that won't solve the problem:
* Try to use a cage. The cage will prevent the dog from destroying the home, but the animal could be harmed when trying to leave and will not prevent it from barking, howling, even peeing.
* Punish the dog. Punishment is not an effective way, in fact if you go back to punish him home, you will make the problem worse.
* Get another pet as a playmate. This does not help because normally what creates anxiety is your absence not the fact of being alone.
How to educate a dog excessively dependent on his master
We are used to dogs since childhood, or since entering the house chase us all over the house, because it makes us Grace, because we have fun, because we like to have them always close, or because we just don't care.
We can not care when the puppy is playful and likes to play with our pants, sneakers, play with our legs to not let us walk. As a game, it's fun, it's even a link that our puppy or the dog that enters at home, will do with us as he would with his mother, through the game.
But after these moments of play, whether it's a puppy, adult, adult, adopted or gifted, the dog should know what his site. If you are not sure that when you walk around the house, whether to clean, study, work, order. he must be calm, in his own air and in his cot, you will make him a dog too dependent and unstable within its own House. Since when you are not by his side, you get up or walk, he will not know what to do and, therefore, will simply chase you.
It is in this follow-up when we find puppies sitting in front of us when we are cleaning, when we cook or while we manage to leave, with the consequent state of anxiety on our part and we wonder why he has that attitude, of not knowing very well what to do while he watches you
For a dog to be completely stable and calm in his house, he must know what he can do and what he cannot.
There will be moments of play, or follow-up, the normal ones, the ones you allow, to the point where the dog is no longer going to make a activity with you, for the house, then, is when you should be quietly in your bed, your place, or where you like or want to be at that moment, but not chasing you. So he will know that while you wander around the house, he can play in his blanket, sunbathe, sleep, play with his toys. Be calm, in two words.
With this we will also get, that in those quiet afternoons Sunday, while watching a movie quietly in the armchairn, or you rest from your work lying down On your couch, when you get up for a cup of tea or a glass of water, your dog does not believe that because you get up, you are going to get lost or have to find out what you do at every moment. He doesn't like it, being calm and lying down, even sleeping, and getting up hastily, because you have moved from the armchair, or have changed rooms in the house. A stable dog will fall asleep in its place, resting, quiet, playing, while you move freely around your house. If we don't get this stabilitythe dog us will askfood while we cook, it will be under our feet when we feel like it and when we don't, and he himself will not enjoy a full tranquility No deep sleep while you are working at home.
How to get it?
1- When you have already played with him, when you have already greeted you when you return home, when you go up the street, when you are eating, when you are cooking. If your dog chases you, wherever you go, you must order him Y teach him two or three words, always the same, so that he goes to his place, his little bed, his blanket, etc., and that he stays there, even if you walk in front of him a thousand times. At first, when you pass by, he will want to chase you, because he will not know what to do, how he should act. Then you must tell him firmly the words with which you indicate that it must be seated or lying down in its site, but don't chase you or be where you are.
2- You have to be firm, have constancy, and order it every time, it is not enough to leave it sometimes and sometimes not, as it suits us. This, while you are educating, teaching and getting used to being stable.
3- If you already have a stable and educated dog in this discipline, and you fancy that from time to time I will see you, sometimes and at times, in which you see that it is only a greeting, a love, a invite to play or just go to give you a lick, do not seem strange or overwhelming, they need to show their love and devotion sometimes, let's not be ungrateful. Let's give them a big bang and hug !!
Have a stable dog at home, everything will be much more comfortable and easier, and he will know how to be calm when it's time to be.
By Rosary Gómez, Veterinary Technician --------
GuardeCanEnCasa - Nursery of dogs in my house (Madrid)
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